Putting Things in Order of Importance - Part 2

💾 When the World Sees “Common,” God Sees Chosen! 💿

So, what inspired me to expand on this topic? Personal struggles. Battling lies. Rising above the labels that the world tried to stick on me. Taking hold of God's truth and living it in a world that is slowly forgetting what that even means!

On my last blog post that I wrote on this subject, "Putting Things in Order of Their Importance,"; I addressed the fact that God doesn't rank his children like Pokémon cards.

Here, I go into more detail about my own personal experience and growing up years. So buckle up because I'm about to lay the neon truth down for you!

In the last blog, I spoke of the colorism struggle in the Western community. I used to wonder why God gave me dark brown hair when the world seemed to fawn over blondes and redheads. No joke! Both of my parents were blonde. All three of my siblings are blonde.

As I addressed on part one: Growing up, I was the only one among my siblings without sunlit strands or rare ginger hues. People would gush over them—strangers even stopping to compliment their “special” looks—while I stood in the background, unremarkable, easy to ignore. And I always wondered why.

I’ve heard from others who’ve experienced this too. It really messes with your mind. It sinks in early. You start thinking maybe you are forgettable, that maybe beauty skipped you.

But over time, and through some hard truths wrapped in neon grace, I came to see something bigger than the mirror or other people's opinions.

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The World Idolizes What’s Rare—Even Hair!

In many cultures—European and beyond—traits like red or blonde hair are treated like winning the genetic lottery. Celebration days, magazines, blogs, social media, and even schoolyard comments push this message: If you don’t stand out, you don’t matter.

But it didn’t stop there. As I looked deeper into this neon truth, I found something even more profound. I was the one left out. I didn’t fit the “perfect” mold of what was celebrated in my family and culture. My siblings were marked by traits that shone in the spotlight: they reflected the world’s idea of ‘perfection,’ while I was the backdrop, the “ordinary” one, the overlooked. I'm what they call the "funny face" of the litter: the one who is different than all the others.

I was called 'boring to look at', slow, or even worse—an embarrassment. It was as if my very existence wasn’t enough. I didn’t measure up, and I was constantly reminded of it. It wasn’t just a passing thought—it was a wound, one that dug deep. And that wound? It grew into years of self-hate, rejection, and a fight for my worth.

But here’s the glitch in the Matrix:

God doesn’t worship genetic rarity. Only He creates value. And He calls what He made good—whether the world notices or not.

"Man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart." —1 Samuel 16:7

This hit me like a synth bassline in the dark. When Samuel went to anoint Israel’s next king, he passed over all the tall, strong, “obvious” choices. God wasn’t looking for flash—He was searching for faith. And He found it in the shepherd boy no one expected.

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🕹️ I Wasn’t Overlooked. I Was Set Apart.

For a long time, I let rejection write my inner code.

I believed I wasn’t enough because I wasn’t visually “rare.” But God never designed me to compete in that artificial ranking system. He designed me to reflect Him.

"God chose what is low and despised in the world—even things that are not—to nullify things that are, so that no one may boast before him." —1 Corinthians 1:28-29

God has always used the overlooked to disrupt the expected. David. Leah. Joseph. Even Jesus himself. The stone the builders rejected became the cornerstone. That’s not just poetry—it’s our pattern.

🌌 You Are Not Common. You Are Cosmic. Dark brown hair isn’t “plain.” It’s prized! It's the color of Eumelanin, which protects the eyes, hair, and skin from sun damage. It preserves youth. Of depth. Of hidden treasure.

And some of the greatest treasures are hidden in plain sight.

And maybe God gave you what the world calls “ordinary” so He could show off His glory through you, not just on you.

We’re in a world obsessed with highlight reels and halo filters—but God’s light doesn’t need enhancement. You were made with purpose, on purpose. Even your hair.

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Score your own rare gem!

One guy was like, ((“Hey, there’s nothing wrong with brown hair — I have brown hair. Just telling you from a male perspective that nearly every race prefers what is rare, blonde and red hair.” )) Total bummer, right? It kinda wrecked my vibe for a sec.

But then I look at my guy, who’s absolutely stoked on brunettes — especially this one right here (me). Guess I scored my own rarity after all. 💖 Feels like I hit the jackpot in an arcade full of knockoffs.

That kinda comment can totally hit like a bummer, especially when it plugs into that gnarly lie that says your worth depends on looking “rare” or matching someone else’s scene.

But just ’cause it stung doesn’t make it true — it just means it cut deep, you know?

Here’s the real-deal truth though:

The world’s style is forever flipping, and if you chase every new trend, you’ll always feel like you’re missing something. But your value was never up for debate — not by some stat, not by some hair-color fad, not even by whatever “everybody’s into” this week. It’s set by the God who designed you, totally on purpose.

And hey — you already know you’re someone’s absolute JAM. 💖 The fact that my guy’s all about me — brown hair and all — screams louder than any ((“most people prefer X."))

The truth is, real, deep love doesn’t care about who’s “rarest.” It cares about who you are.

And God? God’s not up there counting strands of hair or ranking hair colors — He’s looking at a soul handcrafted in His image, someone so priceless that Christ gave up everything for you. That’s the real rarity, for sure: a heart known and wanted by Him.

I wonder what Jesus would say if someone said that to him.

Imagine someone looking Jesus in the face and saying, ((“Hey, nearly every race prefers what’s rare — blonde or red hair. Nothing wrong with your brown hair, Jesus.”))

And you can almost see Jesus’ response being gentle yet firm, full of truth:

“Man looks at the outward appearance, but my Father looks at the heart.”(cf. 1 Samuel 16:7)

Or maybe He’d smile kindly and say something like:

“You see rarity in the color of hair. I see treasure in every soul.”

Jesus was never about putting stock in shallow stuff or the latest status symbols. All through the Gospels, He was kicking it with people nobody thought were cool — the ones overlooked, left out, or seen as total nobodies. Every single one was primo in His eyes, just because they belonged to Him.

And if somebody tried to tell Jesus that being “rare” is what makes someone valuable? Man, I can so see Him dropping a parable like the Good Shepherd going after that one sheep — not because it was a collectible or some kind of limited-edition find, but because it was loved, big time.

That’s Jesus for you — straight-up radical. Every soul is a priceless treasure to Him… including you. 💛

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⚡ More Than a Rare Gem — Totally Radical Truths About Our Worth! ⚡

Let’s get real for a sec — the world loves to act like scarcity equals value. It’s like chasing after a limited-edition cassette or some ultra-rare high-top sneakers. But when we look at things through God’s Word? That whole idea goes out the window like last week’s mullet.

God’s economy is totally different.

🌈He created each one of us with off-the-charts worth — not because we’re one-in-a-million, but because we belong to Him.

Even if there were a billion people who looked exactly like you, you wouldn’t lose one ounce of value. And if you were one-of-a-kind like some sick 80s synth? That wouldn’t make you “more worthy” either.

Here’s what the Bible lays down:

💜 God handcrafted humanity in His image — that’s already primo, no scarcity needed (Genesis 1:27).

💜 He loved the world so much that He gave His Son — and that rescue plan was for everyone, not just some “limited release” crew (John 3:16).

💜 He knows you down to every hairdo — yup, even the strands under that perm or teased-out style — and not one thing about you is overlooked (Luke 12:7).

💜 And you’re fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) — straight up! That’s intrinsic value, like neon glowing from the inside.

Bottom line? When you see yourself through His eyes, that whole “scarcity = value” scene is a total myth. 💥Your value doesn’t hinge on being rare or different — it’s because you’re His, period. And that value never fluctuates like the top 40 charts. 📻🎶

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🌈 Beyond the Spectrum: Seeing with Totally Radical Eyes! 🌈

Ever heard that we can’t see more than about 5% of the color spectrum? Wild, right?

🤯 Even people who’ve had NDEs (near-death experiences) or OBEs (out-of-body experiences) say there are colors in heaven so vivid and off-the-charts that we don’t even have names for them. It kinda shows how limited our eyeballs really are — they’re like a super-basic TV in a world full of 8K, ultra-neon rainbows. 📺✨

And here we are, sometimes sizing ourselves and each other up based on hair color, skin color, or eye color — the most tiny sliver of light! That’s like deciding who’s valuable by glancing at one pixel on a crazy huge arcade screen. 🎮💜

The truth? Color itself is an illusion — a cool trick our brain plays by decoding a few wavelengths of light. So why do we let those tiny details decide our worth? The Creator paints with colors we can’t even dream of yet. 🌠

Paul drops some major 80s wisdom in 2 Corinthians 4:18 (NIV):

“So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

That’s a game-changer. What if we could see one another the way God does? Forget just hair or skin — imagine seeing someone’s soul glowing with God’s light, their purpose lighting up like a rad synthwave sunset. 🌇✨ That’s where real beauty lives.

Next time someone tries to box you in by what they can see, remember:

You’re way more than the tiny slice of color they perceive. You’re designed by the Ultimate Artist — painted in a spectrum that stretches into eternity. Totally tubular and forever priceless. 🎸💖

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⚡ Bragging Rights That Actually Rock! ⚡

Let’s be real — people love to flex. Whether it’s their rare eye color, hair color, or some limited-edition style they scored at the mall, everyone’s chasing that feeling of being special. But here’s the gnarly truth: all that stuff is super fleeting.

That’s why God drops this radical reminder in Jeremiah 9:23-24 (ESV):

“Thus says the Lord: Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom,let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches,but let him who boasts boast in this,that he understands and knows me.”

That’s it — the only brag that never goes out of style. 🌟 Knowing the Lord who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness. That’s what really lasts forever.

Gene pools? Gone like yesterday’s mixtape.

Looks? Fading faster than neon at midnight. Skills and status? They come and go like the next big thing. But knowing Him? That’s an eternal jam that never stops playing. 🎧💖

When we brag about knowing God — His goodness, His heart, His ways — we’re celebrating the most valuable thing in the universe. No empty comparisons. No shallow competitions. Just the forever-worth of being His.

So next time someone’s flexing their rare features, let them have their moment. You’ve got something way cooler — the King of forever, and that’s a rarity you can truly treasure. 🌈👑

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This is my response to a world that tried to write me off.

You see me through your static screen, Judging shades like it's 1983, And we're still stuck on black-and-white TV. 📺

But God? He’s rockin’ HD vision in full neon—He sees my soul, not my color. 🔥💜

You call me “a rock that can be found anywhere”? Nah. Heaven calls me custom-made. One of one. Factory sealed. 🕶️🚫🧍‍♀️

You chase rarity with worldly eyes,

But miss the glow behind mine.

I’m lit by the fire of faith,

Not your shallow, surface level scene. 🌌

You mocked the frame—but missed the flame. That’s not just superficial... that’s spiritual blindness. 🙅‍♀️⚡

I rose from the chains, and I don’t dance to your broken mixtape anymore. 🎧⛓️

What you called “common”? God called chosen and peculiar. 💿✨

🌈💿 NEON TRUTH: I was never meant to fit your standard. I was built to break the mold.

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🎧 Final Beat:

For years, I fought the labels: "generic," "petty", "ordinary," "not rare enough." I was broken by those words, misunderstood by those who didn’t see the depth of my spirit. They called me "plain", and in their eyes, I was always falling short.

If you’ve ever felt unseen in a room that celebrates someone else’s glow—know this: you are not a background character in God’s story.

You’re a neon sign in a dark world, pulsing with divine electricity. You’re the overlooked file God pulls from the archive and uploads to glory. You’re not forgotten—you’re chosen.

I don’t need their approval. I am chosen by the Creator. I am peculiar—set apart for His glory.

This fight isn’t just mine. It’s the story of every person who’s ever been overlooked, underestimated, or forgotten by the world. If that’s you, know this: He hasn't forgotten you! And the greatest treasures that can be found are found in the seemingly ordinary. You are chosen. You are not common. You're custom-made, like fingerprints.

Break free from the narrative the world wrote for you. You were built to break the mold. You were made for more!

🕶️ Keep shining. Even in brown.

—Retro Sonya 🌠Faith in the Future. Glory in the Glow.

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