Putting Things in Order of Importance - Part 2

💾 When the World Sees “Common,” God Sees Chosen! 💿

So, what inspired me to expand on this topic? Personal struggles. Battling lies. Rising above the labels that the world tried to stick on me. Taking hold of God's truth and living it in a world that is slowly forgetting what that even means!

On my last blog post that I wrote on this subject, "Putting Things in Order of Their Importance"; I addressed the fact that God doesn't rank his children like Pokémon cards.

Here, I go into more detail about my own personal experience and growing up years. So buckle up because I'm about to lay the neon truth down for you!

I used to wonder why God gave me dark brown hair when the world seemed to fawn over blondes and redheads. No joke! Both of my parents were blonde. All three of my siblings are blonde.

Growing up, I was the only one among my siblings without sunlit strands or rare ginger hues. People would gush over them—strangers even stopping to compliment their “special” looks—while I stood in the background, unremarkable, easy to ignore. And I always wondered why.

I’ve heard from others who’ve experienced this too. It really messes with your mind. It sinks in early. You start thinking maybe you are forgettable, that maybe beauty skipped you.

But over time, and through some hard truths wrapped in neon grace, I came to see something bigger than the mirror or other people's opinions.

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The World Idolizes What’s Rare—Even Hair!

In many cultures—European and beyond—traits like red or blonde hair are treated like winning the genetic lottery. Celebration days, magazines, blogs, social media, and even schoolyard comments push this message: If you don’t stand out, you don’t matter.

But it didn’t stop there. As I looked deeper into this neon truth, I found something even more profound. I was the one left out. I didn’t fit the “perfect” mold of what was celebrated in my family and culture. My siblings were marked by traits that shone in the spotlight: they reflected the world’s idea of ‘perfection,’ while I was the backdrop, the “ordinary” one, the overlooked. I'm what they call the "funny face" of the litter: the one who is different than all the others.

I was called dull, slow, or even worse—an embarrassment. It was as if my very existence wasn’t enough. I didn’t measure up, and I was constantly reminded of it. It wasn’t just a passing thought—it was a wound, one that dug deep. And that wound? It grew into years of self-hate, rejection, and a fight for my worth.

But here’s the glitch in the Matrix:

God doesn’t worship genetic rarity. Only He creates value. And He calls what He made good—whether the world notices or not.

"Man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart." —1 Samuel 16:7

This hit me like a synth bassline in the dark. When Samuel went to anoint Israel’s next king, he passed over all the tall, strong, “obvious” choices. God wasn’t looking for flash—He was searching for faith. And He found it in the shepherd boy no one expected.

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🕹️ I Wasn’t Overlooked. I Was Set Apart.

For a long time, I let rejection write my inner code.

I believed I wasn’t enough because I wasn’t visually “rare.” But God never designed me to compete in that artificial ranking system. He designed me to reflect Him.

"God chose what is low and despised in the world—even things that are not—to nullify things that are, so that no one may boast before him." —1 Corinthians 1:28-29

God has always used the overlooked to disrupt the expected. David. Leah. Joseph. Even Jesus himself. The stone the builders rejected became the cornerstone. That’s not just poetry—it’s our pattern.

🌌 You Are Not Common. You Are Cosmic. Dark brown hair isn’t “plain.” It’s prized! It's the color of Eumelanin, which protects the eyes, hair, and skin from sun damage. It preserves youth. Of depth. Of hidden treasure.

And some of the greatest treasures are hidden in plain sight.

And maybe God gave you what the world calls “ordinary” so He could show off His glory through you, not just on you.

We’re in a world obsessed with highlight reels and halo filters—but God’s light doesn’t need enhancement. You were made with purpose, on purpose. Even your hair.

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This is my response to a world that tried to write me off.

You see me through your static screen, Judging shades like it's 1983, And we're still stuck on black-and-white TV. 📺

But God? He’s rockin’ HD vision in full neon—He sees my soul, not my color. 🔥💜

You call me “a rock that can be found anywhere”? Nah. Heaven calls me custom-made. One of one. Factory sealed. 🕶️🚫🧍‍♀️

You chase rarity with worldly eyes,

But miss the glow behind mine.

I’m lit by the fire of faith,

Not your shallow, surface level scene. 🌌

You mocked the frame—but missed the flame. That’s not just superficial... that’s spiritual blindness. 🙅‍♀️⚡

I rose from the chains, and I don’t dance to your broken mixtape anymore. 🎧⛓️

What you called “common”? God called chosen and peculiar. 💿✨

🌈💿 NEON TRUTH: I was never meant to fit your standard. I was built to break the mold.

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💾🔥 You Don’t Need to Be Exotic — You Just Need to Be Anointed!

Lastly, I want to talk about how to deal with people who let this go to their heads. You ever feel like you're stuck in the background while someone else is flexing their “rare features” like a prize in a claw machine? You know the type — strutting around like life handed them the golden joystick and then telling you to stop being “jealous” because you’re not some tall, blonde-haired, green-eyed, 36-inch-legged unicorn with a fan club.

Well, here's the Synthwave truth:

God doesn't vibe with arrogance — and your worth? It's not on sale at the looks counter.

Now, some of us actually do struggle with envy. And not just those of the brunette group, but women of all groups. We know because it's a part of the fallen sinful nature we were born with. And it starts when we compare ourselves to other people. In the blog post The Struggle with Worldly Standards of Beauty: A Reflection, I speak on overcoming envy, jealousy, and comparison. This was a hard lesson for me to learn as a young person, so I hope it helps you come out of the muck as it did me!

🚨✨Radical reminder, dudes and dudettes:

I’ve got zero reason to be jelly of anyone else’s vibes. 🤙 Someone else’s dream job, killer style, glow-up, or crowd of fans? Doesn’t cramp my wave.

🌊🌈 Their wins don’t cancel mine. There’s plenty of runway on this neon highway. 🚗💨💜

So the next time someone leans in all smug and says,🕶️((“We’ve got super special powers you’ll never have…”)), Just flash a smile and say,🧃 “Oh, but you’re forgetting something — you can still win with these cards if you play them right, baby.” 🃏✨

Play your deck, stay in your lane, and ride your wave — you don’t need to steal the spotlight to shine. 🌟 There’s room in the synth-city skyline for us all to rise. No gatekeeping in this future.

📀💽 So let's ditch the envy, crank the courage, and glow like there’s no tomorrow. The scoreboard’s got space for everyone’s high score. 🎮🕹️

You’ll hear ‘em say stuff like:💅 ((“Oh, that? Pshh, nothing special, hun...”)) — right after bragging like they’re the main character in a Saturday morning cartoon. 😒

👀 I’ve dealt with those glitchy egos before — no biggie.

But just remember this, my neon-loving legends:

🚨 Pride is Not Power — It’s a Glitch!

“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”— James 4:6

In God's Kingdom, pride is a virus in the system. Those who strut and boast are cruising for a crash. But the humble? They're running on grace fuel, and that ride never ends.

💿 Beauty Isn’t Just Skin-Deep — It’s Spirit-Driven!

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”— Proverbs 31:30

Looks fade. Filters glitch. But a heart that fears the Lord? That’s forever retro gold. You don’t need to be the centerfold — you were already center stage in God’s design.

📡 God Sees You, Even if the World Doesn’t!

“Man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”— 1 Samuel 16:7

The world might be hypnotized by the hologram, but God sees the soul beneath the synth. You were wired with eternal worth — no upgrades needed.

⚡ You Don’t Need to Win the Favor of Men — You’re Already Chosen!

“Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.”— 2 Corinthians 10:17

So let them brag about their stats. Their beauty is on a timer. But your confidence? It’s backed by Heaven’s eternal power grid. Your boast isn’t in your shade of your hair — it’s in the Lion of Judah.

True power? It’s walking humbly in God’s light, glowing from the inside out, and never needing to flex. 💡💖

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🎧 Final Beat:

For years, I fought the labels: "generic," "petty", "ordinary," "not rare enough." I was broken by those words, misunderstood by those who didn’t see the depth of my spirit. They called me "plain", and in their eyes, I was always falling short.

If you’ve ever felt unseen in a room that celebrates someone else’s glow—know this: you are not a background character in God’s story.

You’re a neon sign in a dark world, pulsing with divine electricity. You’re the overlooked file God pulls from the archive and uploads to glory. You’re not forgotten—you’re chosen.

I don’t need their approval. I am chosen by the Creator. I am peculiar—set apart for His glory.

This fight isn’t just mine. It’s the story of every person who’s ever been overlooked, underestimated, or forgotten by the world. If that’s you, know this: He hasn't forgotten you! And the greatest treasures that can be found are found in the seemingly ordinary. You are chosen. You are not common. You're custom-made, like fingerprints.

Break free from the narrative the world wrote for you. You were built to break the mold. You were made for more!

🕶️ Keep shining. Even in brown.

—Retro Sonya 🌠Faith in the Future. Glory in the Glow.

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